Over the next few days I'd like to go into more detail on the Six Golden Rules to Help Your Children Through Divorce, one rule at a time.
Rule # 1: With your spouse, tell your children before change takes place. Four out of five preschool aged children are never even told about their parents divorce! Babies know when there is a change in routine, or any stress in the household. Not only will this be one of the hardest conversations you'll have to have with your children, but you'll have to have it with the person you maybe least like. And don't dismiss the idea of seeking help from a school counselor, mental health professional, social worker, religious advisor or support group for yourself, your children or the family as a whole. Other cultures call this "enlightenment. I called it necessary.