Divorce Day: Is it this first working Monday of the new year?

Kindly waiting for the holidays to be over, this first working Monday of the new year is thought to be the day most people file for divorce. But some lawyers argue that the big day is April 16th, once finances are neatly revealed. With Valentine's Day in between, I'm sure Hallmark prefers the latter. Either way, according to the courts, January is the month when most divorces are filed.

With this in mind, keep any children involved in your hearts. Let them know often that the divorce is not their fault and that their parents love them to pieces, just the same as they always did!

I hope you have a very happy and peaceful new year!

Rule # 2

2. Reassure children often that the divorce is not their fault. Children of all ages blame themselves. "If I would have thrown Mommy a better birthday party, they wouldn't have got divorced!" or, "If I keep my room extra clean, they won't fight" are often the perspectives of children. Many children hear their parents arguing over parenting issues. They need to know that most arguments about them result from problems in the marriage, not with them, and that they had absolutely nothing to do with your decision to divorce.